There comes a time in every woman's life when she needs to take a break from dating. Whether you just called it quits with the guy who was supposed to be the one or just went on another horrible date, warming the bench doesn't have to mean you hate men. If you've considered joining your local convent or switching teams then you would be me. Although I'm sure neither would want me in reality, or make me happy, sometimes it's nice to ponder what if. This is how I discovered running!

This means giving yourself permission to be selfish and take up an uncharted form of exercise so that at the conclusion of swearing off men your at your most confident to snag one. Hey, let's be honest here we don't want to be single forever but… It's (totally) Okay to Warm the Bench Because… Reason #1-You're Rebounding I'll be the first to tell you that I've been known to say "the best the way over is under" —as in the best way to get over your last one is to get under your next one.

This might work in your 20's but if your 30 and up then this ain't the way to go about it. This is where you discover yoga, tennis or soul cycle; any physical activity that will allow you to release the hate in a healthy way. Embrace your broken heart and while you warm the bench use that hatred to fuel your hotness. It happens with friends and it's no different with men. If you immediately eliminate a man for having the same one as your ex then we have another thing in common.

Reason #2-You vomit when you hear his name When warm the bench on a dating breaka man's name scares you it's definitely time to warm the bench. Later I dated another man with the same name who finally caused me to never want to meet another George for the rest of my life. I just started talking to a guy name Geoff and when he told me his name I considered halting any further communication based on another douche bag bearing the same name and spelling. Talk about a coincidence.